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Hälsningar från Bergen

October 14, 2009 · 7 Comments

Jag chattade precis med söta Lia (Mina Lyckopiller-Lia) och hon hälsar till alla sina bloggvänner att allt är bra i Bergen, förutom internet* och därför kan hon varken uppdatera bloggen, svara på kommentarer eller läsa andra bloggar  :-(   Flyttlådorna är inte helt uppackade men hon och sambon mår bra, och hon verkar vara vid gott mod. Nu håller vi tummarna att deras internet blir bra så att vi kan läsa om deras norska äventyr på hennes blogg!

Lias Bergen

Fotot är helt fräckt snott från Lias blogg – själv har jag ju inte varit i Bergen… än i alla fall!

Jag har lovat att skicka era kommentarer till henne, eller så skickar ni själva ett litet email till henne. Hennes nya emailadress finns på hennes blogg, i vänstra kolumnen under “Om mig” (klicka på länken “Kontakta mig”).

*) Skype behöver inte så mycket internetstyrka för att man ska kunna chatta, som tur är!

Categories: General thoughts

Left or right, that is the question…

October 5, 2009 · 16 Comments

Or rather, are you left- or right-handed?

Quite a straight forward question for most people, and “officially” I would say that I am left-handed. However, there are a lot of things I do with my right hand and after O and I had had a discussion regarding this subject, I started writing down what I do with which hand (the funny thing is that I wrote my list with the “Right” to the left and vice versa):

LEFT HAND
writing
washing dishes
cutting bread
potato peeler
putting on mascara
sewing
brushing / combing my hair
brushing my teeth
pulling / carrying my suitcase (until tired, then I switch hands)
putting cream on my face
starting exercises always to the left (causes problems when exercising in a group, probably why I hate it!)
eating with a spoon
RIGHT HAND
play badminton & tennis
using can openers
putting on mascara
use the phone (I often grab it with my left and then switch to the right when talking)
cut with scissors (I have never been able to use left-handed scissors)
computer mouse
hair brush (both hands actually)
carrying my handbag on my right shoulder
vacuumcleaning (both)
drink (i.e hold a glass, bottle or mug)

Keeping right in Jordan
Keeping right in Jordan

I remember using the knife and fork in opposite hands (i.e holding the knife with my left hand and the fork with the right) when I was a young child, but I don’t remember when or why I swapped to eating like most people? The reason why I remember that I used to do it the other way is that I had a plastic table mat with a fork and a knife drawn on it and it annoyed me that I would have to put the cutlery in the wrong positions. Already at a young age I had a certain sense of order and symmetry, and maybe that’s why I changed hands?

When it comes to playing badminton, it is quite a funny story: I started taking badminton lessons when I was maybe 9 or 10. After a few lessons, my mother came to watch us play and afterwards she asked me why I was holding the racket in my right-hand? Well, because the coach told us to do it! Maybe that’s why I never became any good? ;-) However, in sewing class I was aware of the fact that I was left-handed, to my sewing teacher’s despair – as she couldn’t teach me how to crochet with my left! I also remember hating the left-handed pairs of scissors – there were always a few pairs in our classroom and some teachers tried to make me use them, but I couldn’t since I cut [with scissors, but not with knives] with my right hand.

Out of the 6 colleagues I shared various offices with in the European Commission, 2 or 3 colleagues were left-handed just like me. My Spanish colleague R was “more” left-handed than I, he always had the computer mouse to the left – extremely annoying when using his computer! I feel that there is a certain affinity between us left-handers and most of us point it out when meeting another left-handed person. When watching films I always notice who writes with their left; Julia Roberts, Brad Pitt and Keanu Reeves for example are left-handed. However, you can know somebody for quite a long time before you are in a situation where it would be discovered (usually when writing) - long-time friends, who are right-handed, have been shocked (??) to discover that I am in fact left-handed.

A friend used to complain that when she and her left-handed boyfriend were visiting a place they didn’t know, they would instinctively choose opposite directions to walk in – he would want to go to the left, and she to the right! Maybe that’s the same reason why I sometimes get confused with which cheek to kiss when greeting people (in cultures where you don’t shake hands!) – my instinct is to go left first!?

 Driving on the left in Puerto Rico??
Driving on the left in Puerto Rico?? We saw this puzzling sign on Isla de Cabras (the Goat Island) in Cataño, close to the Bacardi factory…

For many years I had difficulties in telling left from right, which I have read is quite common when 1) you are left-handed 2) a woman… In other words I have two valid excuses! My family will still make fun of me, claiming that I don’t know which is which! But I have a trick (still!): you say hello with your right (as höger (right) starts with a h just like hälsa in Swedish). When learning English I thought right has a h, so it is höger, in French it is the opposite – gauche is spelt with h so it is not höger, in Italian the h-trick doesn’t work but I think of the word “sinister” and then I remember that sinistra is left (sinistrare actually means to injure or damage!). Phew, a bit complicated but it works for me!

Furthermore, it is quite interesting that in most languages (that I know, Swedish being the exception), right both means “not left” (as it is explained in the dictionary) and “correct” as well as a “claim” (a human right for example). No wonder the Italians call the left ”sinister”. I also find it fascinating that in Spanish sordo (deaf) and zurdo (left-handed) are quite similar words (especially when not making the distinction between s and z, such as in the Puerto Rican accent)!

How do left-handed people do in cultures (Muslim countries, India etc) where the left hand is viewed as “unclean” (you should eat with your right hand and clean yourself after toilet visits with the left)? Or in countries, such as the UK and the US where many school class rooms are not equipped with real tables and just chairs with writing boards to the right? Fortunately I never had to deal with those silly, or rather discriminatory, right-leaning “chairs + writing boards” in Sweden, even though abroad it has happened quite a few times.

Read more about left-handedness here, where you can learn that left-handedness is more common among men than women (strange then that in my family it was my paternal grandmother* and I who became left-handed, and only one of my left-handed colleagues was male).

*) My paternal grandmother was forced to become right-handed in school, a common practise in many countries until recently. She always spoke about it as a very traumatic experience.

Categories: General thoughts

Wednesday recipe & survey: Spicy Olive oil & sheet etiquette

June 17, 2009 · 18 Comments

One of the Swedish newspapers that I read, Dagens Nyheter or DN for short, has an etiquette column written by a famous etiquette expert called Margareta Ribbing. I find it absolutely fascinating to read the questions sent in by readers, the answers written by Margareta and the sometimes outrageous debates that follow through the readers’ comments.

Maybe I have been away too long from Sweden and have gotten used to adapting to foreign cultures with different traditions, or maybe I am completely oblivious to the trail of insulted Swedes and foreigners I leave behind me?? Nevertheless, I am often astounded by the etiquette issues people have. You would assume that common sense and communication would be enough to solve most problems – especially when living in a relatively homogenous society such as Sweden. Why not actually ask people what they expect from you – do they want you to take off your shoes or not, split the restaurant bill or calculate everyone’s share by the decimal…

Etiquette for hands on walls!
I found this quite unusual sign in a condo in San Juan

I don’t know if this is a typically Swedish phenomenon or if people all over the world encounter the same dilemmas in everyday life? We usually say that we Swedes are so afraid of confrontation and making fools out of ourselves, is that why etiquette is so important? I am not saying that etiquette wouldn’t be important abroad, but are Swedes more anxious to not make etiquette blunders?

And do you expats, Swedish or not, find it easier or more difficult to interact with your countrymen after having lived abroad? And how do you deal with etiquette issues with people in your adoptive country? Sometimes it might be easier to be a foreigner and blame your faux pas on that!? Are the so-called unwritten rules in Sweden stricter than abroad?

My new idea for the Wednesday posts is that I will continue publishing recipes but also polls on etiquette to see how you reason around these, at least in Sweden, hotly contested etiquette dilemmas! I know that most of my readers, or at least the ones that comment, are Swedish expats but let’s see if we all agree or disagree with Margareta Ribbing and her readers… Every Wednesday I will choose one of the questions from Etikettfrågan (The Etiquette Question) for you to vote on. Let the debate begin!

The first etiquette question:
Do you bring your own sheets & towels when you stay at friends’ places (this is a link to the original question in Dagens Nyheter – in Swedish of course)?

Do you assume that if the host doesn’t mention sheets, it means that you should bring your own stuff? Or the other way around? Does it matter if you are visiting friends in a summerhouse (maybe without a washing machine) or at their permanent home? Do you even bring your own pillow and duvet? In other words, what is your sheet & towel principle?

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And now to the Wednesday recipe, which once again is one of O’s recipes! One of the many reasons why I love my O is that he is a great cook, I find that very attractive in a man! We both enjoy cooking, and as you might have guessed by now from the recipes I publish, we prefer simple recipes. This is not a recipe for an actual dish but can serve as a future ingredient in all kinds of dishes – salads, frying meat, fish or vegetables…

Spicy Olive Oil

O’s Spicy Olive Oil
- a clean empty glass bottle
- olive oil
- fresh herbs – for example rosemary or thyme
- a few peeled cloves of garlic
- sundried tomatoes and / or a few small dried chilis
- peppercorns, preferably a mix of red and black etc

Put all the ingredients in the glass bottle and add olive oil. After just a day or so the oil will have a wonderful flavour from the spices and herbs!

NB. I found that the rosemary sprig that sticks up in the air above the oil level started to grow mould – so it is probably better if you don’t use entire sprigs of rosemary (i.e cut them in smaller pieces) or regularly add more oil.

Spicy Olive Oil

Categories: Food & recipes · General thoughts

One of the world’s biggest mysteries…

April 7, 2009 · 21 Comments

So close yet so far away…

Far away...

Far far away…

A little closer...

A little closer…

Getting warmer...

Getting warmer…

Almost there!

Almost there!

So close yet so far away… Why? I guess just one of the world’s biggest mysteries…

Is this almost every night reccurring mystery only appearing in our household??

Categories: General thoughts

Elvakaffe (11 o’clock coffee) and some Tuesday thoughts…

June 3, 2008 · 25 Comments

My grandmother always drinks elvakaffe (11 o’clock coffee) in the mornings, and today I am doing it as well! I don’t drink coffee every day but today my Spanish lesson was cancelled… which I discovered when I arrived to the Berlitz centre and it was turned upside down and full of builders remodelling the offices. Unfortunately I didn’t have credit on my phone yesterday so they had not been able to reach me to cancel. Oh well, I didn’t mind going back home but it was a waste of 6 quarters* (the bus is 75 cents one way)!

So when I came back home, earlier than expected I was actually a little hungry or rather sugen as we say in Swedish for something to eat. Aha, wasn’t there a small leftover of the mango & blueberry crumble I made on Sunday in the fridge… perfect for a förmiddagsfika** / elvakaffe! So I made a pot of coffee and settled down in front of the computer to check my favourite blogs; keeping my fingers crossed for Saltistjejen in NYC who is about to give birth, and hoping that another friend will be able to bring her little son home from the neo-natal ward soon… Girls, I am thinking of you both!!

I am also mentally preparing for a session of vacuum-cleaning from hell – imagine the following combo: an apartment of 180 m2 and a vacuum-cleaner that makes A LOT of noise and not that much of actual “sucking”… yep, that’s our most useless Kenmore (never ever buy one!!) diavolo giallo*** ! And then I need to do some ironing too, my least favourite household chore! Oh, the trials and tribulations of a housewife…

The rain is pouring down outside now… and I have finished my solitary fika. Have a great Tuesday everybody! :D

Cafeteria Mallorca in Old San Juan

A woman having fika in Cafetería La Mallorca in Old San Juan…

*) I have turned into a real desperate housewife who checks her husband’s pockets for change every night – I need it for the bus that only accepts the exact fare!!

**) förmiddagsfika = “morning coffee break”. Förmiddag is not really the same as morning, it is the time between the morning and midday, the word doesn’t exist in many languages but in German it is vormittag and in English I found forenoon but I have never seen that word before! Fika is a great Swedish word that cannot really be translated – there’s even a group on facebook called Make “to fika” a verb in other languages than Swedish, and it doesn’t necessarily have to involve coffee as such.

***) diavolo giallo means yellow devil in Italian, and was actually the nickname for a Finnish friend’s yellow bike in Italy but it is very fitting for this piece of junk which is our vacuum-cleaner!

Categories: General thoughts · Life in Puerto Rico

1st Blog Anniversary & 200th Blog Post!

May 25, 2008 · 24 Comments

Today is my blog’s 1st anniversary and my 200th blog post! My first three posts were published on the 25th May 2007 – I was at home as I was sick and I guess a little bored ;-)

Happy New Year 2008!
The blog anniversary deserves some fireworks!

I started the blog in order to be able to tell family and friends about our impending move to Puerto Rico and our future adventures in the Caribbean. I began by writing a little about our everyday life in Brussels, as well as some of my / our travels in Europe. It was also a way for O to hear about my life back in old Europe since my move to the other side of the Atlantic was delayed for several months (phone calls were a challenge as he didn’t have a Puerto Rican phone number and the time difference did its fair share of complicating communication).

I have a feeling that quite a few of my friends are reading the blog, however it doesn’t happen very often that they leave comments… Instead it is other bloggers, especially Swedish expat women around the world (mostly the US) who comment regularly – it is great to be able to share experiences of living abroad! Little did I know when I started the blog that I would make new friends through the blog – I have so far met up with 7 fellow bloggers; here in Puerto Rico, New York City and California! It was great to meet up with everybody, it felt like we already knew each other! I am looking forward to future meetings IRL* with people I have gotten to know in the blog world.

A little blog statistics:

  • Top 3 blog posts are: 30th April / Walpurgis night: the biggest student party of the year (30th April 2008), Semana Santa – Easter celebrations in Spain (19th March 2008 ) and The risks of having kids with a foreigner (13th November 2007).
  • The most popular search terms deal with Spanish Easter celebrations, men’s eyebrows and American blueberries!!
  • Some weird searches ending up on my blog: “billiga papiljotter” (cheap hair curlers), “vad är Sveriges zip code” (what is Sweden’s zip code? I guess the person meant the international access code for dialling!?) and “Öresund bridge + Obama” (the Öresund bridge is the one connecting Sweden and Denmark!).
  • Top 3 countries of visitors: USA, Sweden and UK. Bottom 3: Barbados, US Virgin Islands, Malaysia (1 each)…

My parents left yesterday morning after two weeks with us, and since I am heading home to Sweden in less than a month it felt good to be able to say See you in a few weeks when I said goodbye to them at the airport! The rest of the weekend has been spent getting a new much needed hair colour (thanks to O’s hair colouring skills) and much shorter haircut (thanks to the Sears’ hair salon). And tonight I made my first sofrito y arroz con habichuelas** (well, I did swap them for garbanzos)!! My Spanish homework actually, my new Spanish teacher gave me the recipes to try out at home!!

*) IRL = In Real Life

**) Sofrito is a mix of peppers, coriander (cilantro / culantro??), onion and garlic which is used to flavour all kinds of dishes, such as beans, stews etc. I made rice (arroz) with chickpeas (garbanzos) instead of beans (habichuelas); a typical Puerto Rican dish, together with some lamb.  

Categories: General thoughts

Walking the dog… or rather pushing the dog!?

May 21, 2008 · 24 Comments

I went for my usual morning walk this morning, the sun was shining but with a few clouds – just the way I like it as it gets too hot otherwise. I had been walking for about 20 minutes when a woman dressed in exercise gear and pushing a pram / stroller appeared in front of me. As I had just seen a pregnant woman, I was thinking that this woman was probably trying to walk off her baby-fat while taking the baby for a walk…

After a while I pass her, and just as I cast a very quick glance on the pram… I realise that she is NOT pushing a baby but A DOG!! 8O A small terrier-like dog with a bow on its head! I was confused to say the least – I thought that walking the dog meant that the dog WALKS too??

On my way back I passed the woman again (she was walking slower than I but taking the same route) and I noticed that it was a proper DOG STROLLER with a drawing of a bone on the front. Of course I had to google it when I came home, and yes, there is such a thing as pet strollers!

Do people actually take other kinds of pets for a stroll?? Their rabbit? Hamster? Cat? And am I the only one who finds it just a little odd? :?

Mycket ska man höra innan öronen trillar av!! (You will hear many things before your ears fall off!)

Updated: Have you seen the following pet stroller: The Kittywalk Pink SUV Pet Stroller- only $289.95!! I quote: Pets who wish to have a little privacy–privacy parlor provides enclosed, protected area. 8O
 

Categories: General thoughts · Life in Puerto Rico

2007-2008: the year I spent with my parents!?

May 14, 2008 · 19 Comments

Just before my parents arrived last week it occurred to me that I have spent A LOT of time with them in this past year:

  • 2 weeks in July 2007: my parents came to visit O and me in Brussels, and I spontaneously decided to go with them to Switzerland to visit my father’s uncle who has lived there for over 45 years… It was great to go on a holiday with my parents again, even if it felt at times like I was at least 10 (if not 15) years younger..
  • An old tree in Cully
    My parents are definitely not as old as the tree, Switzerland July 2007 :D

  • 1 week in August 2007: I only had one week in Sweden last summer and I did actually spend a few days without my parents in the old summer house with my siblings.
  • 5 weeks in October-November 2007: I got “stuck” in Europe without a visa and without a home in Brussels so I went home to stay with my parents. I could subtract one week out of the 5 as I spent a few days in Stockholm and another couple of days in Spain with O.
  • 3 weeks in December 2007 – January 2008 when my whole family came to visit us in Puerto Rico during Xmas and the New Year.
  • 2 weeks in May 2008 (i.e NOW) when my parents are once again visiting us.
  • 6,5 weeks in June-July 2008 in Sweden, minus one week as I am going to Spain and probably (fingers crossed) to Brussels with O!

So, I will have spent approximately 17 weeks, or more than 4 months with my parents in the last year! How many 32-year olds can claim to have been under the same roof as their parents for 4 months in a year?? It’s not like we have just seen each other a lot this year, we have actually lived together for that long! And do you know what, it’s great – I get along well with my parents and fortunately so does O (even if he hasn’t spent that much time with them, compared to me). In fact, I feel very privileged to have had this chance to spend so much time with them recently.

It’s great to have my parents here for a second time, they are very relaxed visitors, and we don’t have to entertain them all the time. They are happy with reading a book (or fixing my computer ;-) ), having a simple meal at home, nipping out for a coffee at Starbuck’s, going to the beach, doing the dishes or even vacuum cleaning… Of course we are still going to do some fun excursions and have a couple of restaurant dinners as well!

This afternoon we are taking the bus to Plaza las Américas to do a little shopping (my mother and I will probably “park” my father in the Borders’ Café) and meet up with O and our friend B for dinner, and then go to a late cinema session. I had a super idea, my father and O will watch the new Al Pacino film 88 minutes and my mother, B and I are going to watch Made of honor, a girly romantic comedy film with Patrick Dempsey. Hopefully everybody will be happy with the choices! I have told my parents to take thick sweaters, and maybe we’ll even bring a blanket for the ice-cold cinema…

The garden of my father's uncle in Switzerland
Another photo from Switzerland, the garden of my father’s uncle and his wife. A little piece of heaven!

Categories: European travels · General thoughts · Life in Puerto Rico · Sweden

One of my oldest friends…

March 14, 2008 · 7 Comments

… is visiting us at the moment and I will therefore continue with our American adventures next week, I will try to sneak off to get some time on the computer during the weekend to prepare the posts.

English A is one of my oldest friends, we have known each other for TWENTY YEARS this year!! It is amazing how time flies – I cannot believe that it was 20 years ago [in September] that I arrived as a scared, extremely shy and timid girl to the Toynbee Secondary School in Chandler’s Ford, Hampshire.

I was shy also in school in Sweden and it’s never easy to start a new school but well, it didn’t help that I didn’t really speak the language, English either (as most Swedish 13-year olds)! I had studied 3 years of English in school but we all know how much you learn from the language lessons in school and anyway I wasn’t a very good English student… I remember struggling with this and that, these and those… I don’t understand now why I didn’t get it – we have the same constructions in Swedish. So, I wouldn’t say that I was very well prepared for a year in an English school – I had not idea how to say basic things such as folder or curtain

It was hard in the beginning, but probably easier than for my sister - who as a 5-year old was left screaming and crying in school by my mother who was not allowed to stay. Her teacher had to sit in front of the classroom door for days (weeks?) so she wouldn’t run away. And my brother was 10 and didn’t speak a word of English of course, he was shouted at, at one of the first days in morning assembly when he didn’t bow his head during prayer time!!

Wearing a school uniform was also strange, but good in a way because it was easier to blend in with the other pupils. Our uniform was grey – grey skirt (trouser for the boys), white shirt, grey pullover and a black-red striped tie. I quickly realised two things my first day of school:

  • All the girls were wearing bras, including the ones who didn’t need one!! I went home and told my mother that I needed a bra too! Amazingly you can find the cup size AA in England…
  • All the cool children were wearing their tie tied with the narrow part showing – so I asked my father to retie my tie in the cool way (I never learnt to tie it, I would just take it off by losing the knot and pull it over my head).

A was one of the few boys who spoke to me and we have stayed in touch all this time, meeting in England, Belgium or Sweden over the years… Lots of fun stories but I will tell those another time because now we are off to Old San Juan!

Have a great weekend!

Categories: General thoughts

What did you give up for Lent?*

February 7, 2008 · 25 Comments

In many Christian cultures, especially the catholic ones, the tradition is to give something up for Lent. I remember learning in school about the history behind carnival – that it meant farewell to meat and that people in the old times would not eat meat before Easter. Shrove or Fat Tuesday marks the day when Lent begins, and carnivals** are celebrated in Rio de Janeiro, New Orleans, Venice, as well as in the Netherlands and Belgium where carnival is even the name for the school holidays in February. [In Sweden the school holidays are called the Sport holidays as you are supposed to do winter sports such as skiing etc]

However, I didn’t realise that this tradition of giving something up for Lent, was still done, until I met two Irish girls in Brussels who told me that they were giving up chocolate & sweets for the 40 days before Easter. I found the tradition quite curious and almost exotic! In Sweden, as already mentioned this week, we eat cream buns on Shrove Tuesday, and frankly – most people continue eating those more or less regularly until Easter… which is of course completely contrary to the idea of giving something up!!
The exterior of Cafeteria Mallorca, Calle San Fransisco in Old San JuanI discovered this old café / bakery in Old San Juan, where they sell some kind of traditional Lent pastries filled with sardines and veggies, every Friday during Lent (i.e Cuaresma in Spanish) [see the sign in the window].

We were discussing this tradition the other evening; two secular Swedish protestants and a Cypriot orthodox (unfortunately the Spanish catholic was missing, he might have been able to give us valuable in-put!) and together we knew a number of people who would give up chocolate (the Irish girls), kebabs (English guy) and alcohol (Austrian girl) etc… Swedish P (not me, our guest who is a guy!) asked why would you do this to yourself? Maybe it is like a New Year’s resolution, something that you want to prove to yourself, maybe it’s an occasion for some “cleansing” or maybe it could actually be… shock and horror, because of religious reasons!?? 

*) I googled the question and there was actually a whole discussion on the subject on yahoo.com and even a web-page dedicated to the issue. And personally, I didn’t of course give anything up!

**) Carnivals are not only celebrated in February around Lent, the Londoners celebrate the Notting Hill Carnival in August and the university students in Lund celebrate Lundakarnevalen every 4 years in May.

Categories: General thoughts